18 Reasons Men Are Choosing To Stay Single

Being single seems to have developed a bad rep over the years. However, it’s not all bad; it can have some major benefits. Embracing the single life gives you full autonomy and allows you to explore, work, and truly get to know yourself. As a result, more men choose to stay single and make the most of their independence. 

Here are some of the reasons behind these decisions, as shared by men on an online forum. Some of these may feel familiar, from expanding their careers to not being ready to settle down.

They Know Their Worth

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Some guys are choosing not to settle for the sake of it. Knowing their self-worth and building their confidence, they decide to stay single until the right person comes along.

Comfortable In Their Own Company

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There’s nothing wrong with being single. Some men enjoy spending time in their own company or hanging out with friends. The pressure of seeking out a relationship is not a top priority, and they don’t have the desire to settle down.


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Many guys are enjoying the freedoms of a non-attachment lifestyle. Remaining single gives them full autonomy over their finances and lifestyle, which some feel would be threatened if they were in a serious relationship.

Enjoying Their Freedom

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Single life can be fun, and many men are taking the time to enjoy flying solo. Exploring the dating scene without the desire to commit to a relationship is an exciting way for many people to figure out what they want.

Bored Of Dating Apps

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A lot of younger guys have had enough of the whole charade of online dating. They no longer want to spend hours sifting through potential matches and are choosing to ditch the apps in favor of chasing new experiences.

Mental Health

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Dating can be exhausting, and going on date after date can take a toll on your mental health. Searching for love without knowing what you’re looking for often becomes pretty overwhelming, and as a result, many guys are taking a much-needed break from it all.

Bad Experiences

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For many people, not just guys, coming out of a bad relationship can impact one’s opinion of everything. Because of this, some men are shying away from committing to a new relationship out of fear of being hurt again.

Fear Of Rejection

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The fear of rejection is a relatively common reason guys don’t put themselves out there. Being repeatedly turned down can have a significant effect on their confidence, which some guys struggle to bounce back from.

Unfair Expectations

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Guys are fed up with the whole charade of dating and the expectations placed on them. Organizing and paying for dates requires a lot of effort, and it can become pretty taxing, both financially and mentally.

Focusing On Their Career

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Some men just don’t have the time or energy for a relationship. Whether they’re trying to focus on their careers or pursue their passions, finding and maintaining a healthy relationship can be very time-consuming.

It’s Getting Repetitive

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When it comes to online dating, it can feel pretty monotonous. It seems the excitement has gone out of dating, so some are taking a step back.


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Dating can be brutal, and if you have recently taken a knock to your confidence, maybe from a bad date or toxic experience, it can contribute to low self-esteem. As a result, the idea of going on a date can be pretty daunting. 

Not Found The Right Person

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It takes time to find the right person, and often, the harder you look, the less likely you are to find them. 

Don’t Know What They Want

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It is important to know what you want from a partner before settling down. Figuring this out can take time and requires you to understand your needs and desires and learn more about yourself before knowing what you want in someone else.

Not Interested In Long-term

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Fewer men want to get married or are desperate to have kids, especially amongst the younger generation, so finding a long-term partner isn’t a priority. 

Commitment Issues

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Commitment can be terrifying. Many guys, when they’re young, tend to avoid getting into committed relationships out of fear of missing out. Being in a serious relationship can be daunting, and many feel that they’d rather focus their time on having fun and hanging out with friends to expand their social circle than on one person.

Not Ready

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Guys tend to mature slightly slower than women, especially in relationships. Sometimes, they feel they aren’t ready to take the next step and commit or aren’t yet in a position to.

Financial Issues

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Many men feel the pressure of the financial burden of being in a relationship. Some feel their self-worth is tied to their career success and income level. As a result, they avoid relationships until they feel financially secure enough in themselves and their lifestyle.

No Pressure! 

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There are many valid reasons for guys choosing to be single. However, the hardest part of not being in a relationship is the constant pressure and questioning (usually from friends and family) as to why. It’s important to remember that there’s nothing wrong with being single and that everyone should take the time to embrace it at certain points in their life.

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